HOW DO WE REALLY KNOW ANYONE IN THE PUBLIC EYE? OR FOR THAT MATTER, ANYONE, INCLUDING OURSELVES?

How do we really know anyone in the Public Eye? Or for that matter, anyone, including ourselves?

 

News Articles? Speeches? Interview? Gossip?

 

                          

We all know that gossip is a bad thing, but somehow it seems to be a part of human nature.

Gossip is probably as old as we are as a species. What purpose could it have survived for our survival?

I question things like this because of my belief in evolutionary biology and psychology for the survival of our species.

I suppose, when we lived either in caves or small nomadic groups, we were highly insulated from each other. Except when food was scarce and we went into someone else’s territory. At least that was war for actual survival. We definitely needed to be wary of strangers.

I don’t know how small or large an actual tribe may have been. So, I can make up “facts”.  They could have ranged from 10 to 1,000 men, women and children. But the numbers don’t matter. The behavior of the people in them does.

Here are some ideas about people in groups.

1. Trust is an important part of living in a group. You need to know that everyone has your back. Possibly, the smaller the group, the more true that is.

2. Every group needs a leader. Without plans and strategies you can’t survive.

3. Leaders have power. Power is desirable to certain people.

4. In order to obtain power, a person must show dominance.

5. Secrets are weak spots. All of us have secrets. That makes us vulnerable.

6. Secrets are hard to keep. The only way a secret can be kept, is if two people know about it, and one of them is dead.

7. People trade secrets like currency. It is a way to obtain intimacy. This is what gossip is.

8. People are jealous creatures and maybe want some power of their own.

 

I’m having trouble writing this.

I want to put it into my theory and hypothesis format, but whenever I’m writing sounds too stilted, or formal and isn’t going where I want it to. It’s not writers block, more like Writers River. It meanders without going to a destination.

 

So, I’ll forget format, and write what I’m thinking. Trust me, it will be easier on you. LOL.

Another digression.*

I remember the old movie, called Blaze. Blaze was played by Lolita Davidovich and Paul Newman played Earl Long, Governor of Louisiana.

Blaze’s mama’s advice to Blaze on leaving home was, “RUN -when any man says, “trust me”. Since then, I can’t help but notice when someone uses that expression, and I ask myself “why would they need to tell me that?”

 

 

So it doesn’t matter if you do or you don’t trust me.

{Meandering river}.

 

THEORY?

 

 

 

Gossip is usually accepted as truth. Especially when people want to believe something negative, particularly about someone they don’t like. Gossip is a tool used by people who want power, to enhance their own image and use it in their quest for dominance. Or to ruin the person in power so someone else can get it.

 

HYPOTHESIS:

In modern society, gossip is a multimillion dollar industry. It needs not to be based on facts. People in power use gossip to manipulate the feelings of people in their society. If I want to ruin someone, I will release secrets to the press and manipulate the way the “facts” are presented.

I think that’s about as close to what I want to say as I’m going to get.

THE MEDIA AND PLEASE DON’T CALL IT LIBERAL. THAT’S JUST ANOTHER MANIPULATION.

The media is currently biased. It can be conservative, liberal, neocon, leftist, right-wing and downright nuts.

 

A FEW PEOPLE OWN THE MEDIA AND ONE THING I DO KNOW, IT’S NOT ME.

I know I’m biased and opinionated. That was what editorials used to be for. The news used to be told with facts. Of course, no matter who looks at these “facts,” will be  the one able to determine what to use or discard, so the media was probably only slightly less biased back in the olden days. And there were unwritten rules about what they could and could not write about, including who they could not write certain things about. I.e. No one was ever going to write about the extra marital affairs of our presidents. That sure changed.

 

CELEBRITY WORSHIP AND GOSSIP:

I know it’s not just Americans. People all around the globe develop heroes and villains.

Since we have no “royalty” in the states, we have created our own class system.  Actors, Singers, Rappers, Tappers, Sportsmen (and some Sportswomen), Writers, Broadcasters, People who are famous for being famous (LOL), Murderers, Conmen, and an assortment of all kinds are reported about.

Mark Twain once said that the only thing worse than being gossiped about, was not being gossiped about. I guess that goes with there’s no such thing as bad publicity.

 

        NAMING NAMES THAT COME TO MIND.

O.J.  Lance Armstrong   Daryl Strawberry Kobe Bryant   Mike Tyson   Jessica Simpson  Rob Lowe   Robert Downey Jr.

Bill Cosby   Mel Gibson   Thomas Gibson   Johnny Depp

Winona Ryder   Martha Stewart   Imelda Marcos   Amber Heard

Kate Moss   Lindsey Lohan   Whitney Houston   Little Kim

Chris Brown   Too Pak Shakur   Angelina Jolie  Billy  Bob Thornton

Nicole Brown Simpson    Pete Rose  Barry Bonds Tom Cruise

  John Travolta      Justin Bieber Michael Vick  Mark McGuire

Alex Rodriguez  Josh Duggar  and anyone you remember that I don’t.

Digression* I wanted to make a list of names and then put them into a kind of rhyme, like Billy Joel did with “We didn’t start the Fire”. This is why people like me don’t finish things quickly. Sidetracks. Or, as, I’d like to call them Sidetraps.

 

WHEN AM I GETTING TO A POINT?

 

Now might be a good time.

 

PEDESTALS, POSITIONS & PROBABILITIES

People in power. People we admire. Those are usually people who have influence over us.

Looking at the above list you’ll see many sports heroes, movie stars, fashion icons, TV personalities and some musicians. [Remember my memory is poor so don’t feel offended if I left out someone you know is important].

People who are famous because of a talent or skill, which we, the ordinary individual don’t have. Or maybe we do, but just never got famous for it.

As “leaders” of some kind, we admire and look up to them. Remember the term “hero worship”?

They may have those talents and abilities, but they are still human beings. Maybe because they made it and we didn’t, we want them to be better. At everything.

And, maybe, just maybe, some of us are jealous of some of them. After all, they seem to have it all. Beauty, success, money, fame and all the things that come along with it.

 

HERE’S THE CATCH:

They each have a personality just like we do. It’s individual to them and we don’t know what it is. We really don’t know anything about them except for what we see and hear about their non-work lives, from the media.  And it’s the media’s job to make money. Damn, it usually comes down to that, right?

So, if you can get a photo of someone topless, or get some good gossip, you put it out there. I will assume that the more reputable outlets at least try to verify what they tell us. But, does it matter? Once you hear it, you can’t un-hear it.

 

Question.  If you are a public person, are you not entitled to a private life?

I don’t have the answer. It is a controversial question. I waver back and forth on it myself.

I do know, that I would not like all my vulnerabilities known to everyone I know. You could tell the world, but only people who know me would be interested.

But if everyone knows you, then everyone is interested.  

{You may have noticed that I’ve let politicians out of this. That’s another category on its own.}

Do we need to know if Jennifer Anniston is pregnant? Or why someone is getting a divorce? Or who is cheating on their spouse, or if they’re gay? No. It’s none of our business.

BUT WHAT ABOUT CRIMINAL ACTS?

This is a little bit of a greyer area. People can make all sorts of allegations. They may or may not be true. It would be nice if we didn’t find out about these allegations about illegal activity until criminal charges were filed.  Although the rich and famous don’t often get charged. I could go off on a sidetrap on that, but maybe I’ll remember to blog on it.

I’m thinking about Bill Cosby. That’s a heart breaker. Worshipped and adored and all the while, he’s drug raping women. That’s unreal. A man with real power so the women were afraid to talk. Or they were paid to shut up. This is a crime.

Then, Michael Jackson. Was he or wasn’t he? Did he or didn’t he? Nothing was proven in any trial, but we all took sides and believed, one way or the other. The crime here, is that since nothing was proven we should have accepted the court’s decision. Something else to think about is how once your name has been sullied, you have real trouble trying to get it clean again.

Johnny Depp. Is he a wife beater? Or maybe an alcoholic who beats his wife when he’s drunk? Does that make him a better or worse actor? As a person, well, that’s a different story. Does he get paid to be a person or an actor?

 

DO I HAVE A POINT?

Yup. I do. We hold people on pedestals to higher standards. That isn’t fair. They’re really just people. Except, maybe, since they chose to be famous or were lucky enough to become “someone” who is in the public eye, it is fair.  

The probability is that once we know who they are as people, we are bound to be disappointed. Not because they are bad. They just aren’t who we would like them to be. Or imagined them to be. Or needed them to be.

 A somewhat different issue is that I believe that all people who commit criminal acts should suffer the consequences. I also believe that gossip about who’s cheating on whom, who is a cheap bastard, who is ugly without makeup, well that’s none of anyone’s business. I don’t look so hot when I get up in the morning either. I don’t cheat, although I may occasionally lust in my heart, like Jimmy Carter. I’m not cheap but I am moody and even though I love my friends, I don’t call them. That’s bad. And since it doesn’t affect you, do you care? Then why would you care if I said the same things about Meryl Streep?

CONCLUSION:     (finally)

 

People who live in glass house shouldn’t throw stones. People who live in rubber houses shouldn’t throw anything because it will bounce back and hit them.

And finally. Don’t believe everything you see or hear. It may just be someone trying to manipulate you. I am. I’m trying to open your mind. I hope that’s okay. If not. Just ignore me. My husband does.

 

 

 

                                     Thanks for Reading.

 

 

 

 

SHORT TERM MEMORY LOSS

SHORT TERM MEMORY

 

Those of you who have following me for a while, know that my short term memory, well sucks.

 

People and experts wrote that it would return if I did exercises.

Well, it hasn’t returned.

So I went to a store and said, I want my short term memory back.

 

 

They asked me if I had a receipt. I said “no”.

And they told me I was shit out of luck.

 

 

 

 

Fortunately for them, I can’t remember what store it was, or I’d go back and sue.

 

 

That's all Folks

 

HAVE A HAPPY HOLIDAY

 

 

 

AND THANKS FOR READIN

I KNOW IT'S A LITTLE LATE, BUT MAYBE WE COULD GET OPRAH TO THROW HER HAT IN THE RING.

Normally, I don't like to get into politics. People, and I am one of them, are so seriously tied to their opinions that they might kill someone for not agreeing with them.
So why am I so openly writing, so many posts?


The answer, I believe, is FEAR.

To what level has our nation sunk that people are so unbelievably polarized?
I don't know why. I have no valid reason for disliking Hillary, but I certainly understand why other people feel that way. And, for many things, they are not wrong.
I don't understand Trumps appeal, and that's on me.

Well, maybe I do but the thing is, that I'm scared about this election because one of them is going to win. Probably?

I keep thinking that something will occur and  it won't be these two people.

So this morning, a solution flew into my head. Let's draft Oprah.

Okay. Those of you who are not particularly liberal might not understand why I thought she would be a good choice.

How about the facts.

• She's a very intelligent person.
• She has amazing interpersonal skills and is a very good negotiator.
• She is already wealthy and has, I'm sure, excellent fiscal understanding and skills
• We already know everything about her, so there shouldn't be any sudden revelations throwing a monkey wrench into her bid.
• She is a reasonable person, and although she may have her own values, is open to listening to others and is capable of changing her mind.
• She would also have to deal with both houses and Congress, so it's not like she can make her own decisions and --- boom. They're done.

  And for those of us so inclined, we can still get a WOMAN for president.

So what do you think?

 Maybe by the time she's finish running the country, we might be capable of choosing candidates who are worthy .

 

 

 

 

thanks for reading.

JIMMY CARTER WAS THE LAST HONEST PRESIDENT THE UNITED STATES HAD. THINK ABOUT THAT AND DID HIS HONESTY MAKE US A STRONG COUNTRY?

 

 

 

Who remembers the last honest president of the United States?

It was Jimmy Carter. It wasn’t that long ago. Surely both Donald and Hillary remember him. Hell, they must have met him. And if you recall, things did not go so well with Dr. Carter at the helm.

Why do I bring this up now?

It seems that our candidates are both very dishonest, and each one keeps on telling us that we can’t trust the other one.

So, my question is, what has honesty got to do with being a good ruler?

Theory: We hold our public servants up to standards that they cannot possibly fulfill because we want someone who is better than we are to rule.

 

This makes sense. I would not make a good leader. Well, not of that many people. And we should want someone who is capable of ruling. But what requirements do they need?
 

And then some.

 

HYPOTHESIS: Today, I don’t give a rat’s ass. We all aren’t honest, faithful, generous nor many of the other qualities that we demand from our candidates.  So why the fuck are we buying into all this shit?

      

 

I believe it was Jesus who said “Let he among you who is without sin, cast the first stone.”

 

A REQUEST FROM A RETIRED PROFESSOR.

Look inside your hearts. Why do you bear such animosity towards the candidate you don’t want? Is it possible to clear out the emotions and think with a rational mind at the choice you have to make?

 

We may not have the choices we would want. However, we are at the moment stuck with them. So.

 

This is a really important decision. Please think about it. Make lists of pros and cons for each person.

 

Yes, I have a preference. No. I am not asking you to see things my way.

 

I’m just asking you to really, really look inside your hearts, as I am doing, because this time, the decision is more important than ever.

 

Take out the mudslinging and ask. Who has the qualifications to lead a country? Hell, what are the qualifications to lead a country?

I wish I could find one that was large enough to read. You can look it up online.

 

 

Thanks for reading

 

P.S. This idea came from my husband. He mentioned that Jimmy Carter was the last honest president, so I want to thank him for the idea. Thanks sweet man.

 

"WHOOPS. US "LOST" 700 k+ WEAPONS IN MIDDLE EAST" FROM THE NY TIMES, THE COMMIE pinko PAPER WHO MUST BE WRONG.

I have a pwesent for you.   4. WHOOPS U.S. ‘Lost’ 700K+ Weapons in Middle East     oops. I did it again.       The U.S. military lost track of hundreds of thousands of firearms it brought to Iraq and Afghanistan, according to a New York Times Magazine report. The Pentagon doesn’t even know exactly how many weapons it took to the two countries in the aftermath of the Sept. 11, 2001, terror attacks, and only about 48 percent of the best estimate can be accounted for in government records. Based on incomplete documents, it appears as though the Department of Defense provided at least 1.45 million firearms to forces in the two countries. That includes more than 978,000 assault rifles, about 266,000 pistols, and nearly 112,000 machine guns. About 700,000 of those weapons can be accounted for, and many of the rest are now regularly sold online in Iraq. The attempt to count these numbers has been led by author and former BBC journalist Iain Overton, The Times writes

Okay. This one is really fun.  I don't know about you , but when I was a kid if I misplaced my schoolbook I was in trouble. Or lost a library book? Hell no. Hell hath no fury like a mother paying for something her child lost or broke.


We need to get these weapons back or they may fall into the hands of the enemy. Oh. It looks like we're a bit late for that.
It appears that it was 15 years ago when the weapons went overseas. Are they just noticing now, that they've gone missing?

Oh No. They're being sucked into a black hole. Call for help!

Well, they're not ALL missing. Iraq is selling them online.
The simple solution appears to be,  that we just need to buy them back . I wonder if they're on eBay? Nah. But what would I know? I usually keep track of my things.
Of course I don't have a million of anything, so maybe I'm being overly critical. It must be tough doing inventory.

I would like to ask Trump to ask for a special investigation into the missing weapons. He's someone who keeps track of millions of dollars and other stuff, so he is qualified to ask. for an investigation.  Hell, maybe he can do the accounting too. He probably wouldn't charge too much, because he loves America and wouldn't rip us off.

 

 

 

           thanks for reading.

IF I SAY I LIKE HILLARY, WILL TRUMP DEMAND THAT I BE INVESTIGATED BY THE HOUSE? 'CAUSE THAT WOULD BE WAY COOL.

Good evening friends. Although you might not think so after reading the title.
I know. I am risking life and limb by, well saying, you know, I like, a sleazy, lying bitch. But I do.



Isn't that I nice thing to say? Unless of course if the person he shot would have voted for him. Then he lost one.

                                   The reason I don't care is that they all are.



You see, all women are sleazy lying bitches, well deep down even though we won't admit it. So, I say, go girl. We all get away with it, so should you.

Please do not ask me what I have done to qualify. I'd have to lie and then someone would say, uh, no, man, she's lying. Then, I'd have to try to cover it up because it's bad to lie. Only it gets worse when you try to cover it up. Ask Martha Stewart.

See. Whether they did or didn't do anything, or "get caught", we have spent millions of dollars investigating them. Why? Couldn't they spend it on something that might actually benefit us?

What I don't understand, not really, is why no one is calling the men lying, sleazy bitches. okay. Not bitches. Bastards? No, we don't want to insult their mothers because it's clear how we just worship women.

Alright. Does anyone actually believe that someone who has either achieved great wealth or become a heavy hitter in politics, they have never lied, cheated, profited or made a dirty deal?

Be honest. Even if no one else is.

Given this fact. Let's check out some others.

One:
   Everyone running for president of the United States is a liar and a cheat and at least one of them has had an extra-marital affair. Does the name Marla rings any bells?
Two:
   That makes them equal in this area.
Three:
   One candidate has a tremendous amount of experience in politics and understands how our government works. One does not.

Question. If you were hiring someone for a job in your house or business, and they were both equally qualified on question number one, would you choose the more experienced person? Or the one told you what you want to hear? Even though you know the person lies?
The sad part of this question is that you have to hire someone. And, these are your only two choices.

Of course, you could walk down fifth avenue and ask Donald to shoot you and get it over with.

Just saying.

PS.  If they would like to investigate me it would cost a lot less and it would end up with no indictment. So, let's save the government money. I will volunteer because I'm a true patriot.

Thanks for reading.