JIMMY CARTER WAS THE LAST HONEST PRESIDENT THE UNITED STATES HAD. THINK ABOUT THAT AND DID HIS HONESTY MAKE US A STRONG COUNTRY?

 

 

 

Who remembers the last honest president of the United States?

It was Jimmy Carter. It wasn’t that long ago. Surely both Donald and Hillary remember him. Hell, they must have met him. And if you recall, things did not go so well with Dr. Carter at the helm.

Why do I bring this up now?

It seems that our candidates are both very dishonest, and each one keeps on telling us that we can’t trust the other one.

So, my question is, what has honesty got to do with being a good ruler?

Theory: We hold our public servants up to standards that they cannot possibly fulfill because we want someone who is better than we are to rule.

 

This makes sense. I would not make a good leader. Well, not of that many people. And we should want someone who is capable of ruling. But what requirements do they need?
 

And then some.

 

HYPOTHESIS: Today, I don’t give a rat’s ass. We all aren’t honest, faithful, generous nor many of the other qualities that we demand from our candidates.  So why the fuck are we buying into all this shit?

      

 

I believe it was Jesus who said “Let he among you who is without sin, cast the first stone.”

 

A REQUEST FROM A RETIRED PROFESSOR.

Look inside your hearts. Why do you bear such animosity towards the candidate you don’t want? Is it possible to clear out the emotions and think with a rational mind at the choice you have to make?

 

We may not have the choices we would want. However, we are at the moment stuck with them. So.

 

This is a really important decision. Please think about it. Make lists of pros and cons for each person.

 

Yes, I have a preference. No. I am not asking you to see things my way.

 

I’m just asking you to really, really look inside your hearts, as I am doing, because this time, the decision is more important than ever.

 

Take out the mudslinging and ask. Who has the qualifications to lead a country? Hell, what are the qualifications to lead a country?

I wish I could find one that was large enough to read. You can look it up online.

 

 

Thanks for reading

 

P.S. This idea came from my husband. He mentioned that Jimmy Carter was the last honest president, so I want to thank him for the idea. Thanks sweet man.

 

"WHOOPS. US "LOST" 700 k+ WEAPONS IN MIDDLE EAST" FROM THE NY TIMES, THE COMMIE pinko PAPER WHO MUST BE WRONG.

I have a pwesent for you.   4. WHOOPS U.S. ‘Lost’ 700K+ Weapons in Middle East     oops. I did it again.       The U.S. military lost track of hundreds of thousands of firearms it brought to Iraq and Afghanistan, according to a New York Times Magazine report. The Pentagon doesn’t even know exactly how many weapons it took to the two countries in the aftermath of the Sept. 11, 2001, terror attacks, and only about 48 percent of the best estimate can be accounted for in government records. Based on incomplete documents, it appears as though the Department of Defense provided at least 1.45 million firearms to forces in the two countries. That includes more than 978,000 assault rifles, about 266,000 pistols, and nearly 112,000 machine guns. About 700,000 of those weapons can be accounted for, and many of the rest are now regularly sold online in Iraq. The attempt to count these numbers has been led by author and former BBC journalist Iain Overton, The Times writes

Okay. This one is really fun.  I don't know about you , but when I was a kid if I misplaced my schoolbook I was in trouble. Or lost a library book? Hell no. Hell hath no fury like a mother paying for something her child lost or broke.


We need to get these weapons back or they may fall into the hands of the enemy. Oh. It looks like we're a bit late for that.
It appears that it was 15 years ago when the weapons went overseas. Are they just noticing now, that they've gone missing?

Oh No. They're being sucked into a black hole. Call for help!

Well, they're not ALL missing. Iraq is selling them online.
The simple solution appears to be,  that we just need to buy them back . I wonder if they're on eBay? Nah. But what would I know? I usually keep track of my things.
Of course I don't have a million of anything, so maybe I'm being overly critical. It must be tough doing inventory.

I would like to ask Trump to ask for a special investigation into the missing weapons. He's someone who keeps track of millions of dollars and other stuff, so he is qualified to ask. for an investigation.  Hell, maybe he can do the accounting too. He probably wouldn't charge too much, because he loves America and wouldn't rip us off.

 

 

 

           thanks for reading.

IF I SAY I LIKE HILLARY, WILL TRUMP DEMAND THAT I BE INVESTIGATED BY THE HOUSE? 'CAUSE THAT WOULD BE WAY COOL.

Good evening friends. Although you might not think so after reading the title.
I know. I am risking life and limb by, well saying, you know, I like, a sleazy, lying bitch. But I do.



Isn't that I nice thing to say? Unless of course if the person he shot would have voted for him. Then he lost one.

                                   The reason I don't care is that they all are.



You see, all women are sleazy lying bitches, well deep down even though we won't admit it. So, I say, go girl. We all get away with it, so should you.

Please do not ask me what I have done to qualify. I'd have to lie and then someone would say, uh, no, man, she's lying. Then, I'd have to try to cover it up because it's bad to lie. Only it gets worse when you try to cover it up. Ask Martha Stewart.

See. Whether they did or didn't do anything, or "get caught", we have spent millions of dollars investigating them. Why? Couldn't they spend it on something that might actually benefit us?

What I don't understand, not really, is why no one is calling the men lying, sleazy bitches. okay. Not bitches. Bastards? No, we don't want to insult their mothers because it's clear how we just worship women.

Alright. Does anyone actually believe that someone who has either achieved great wealth or become a heavy hitter in politics, they have never lied, cheated, profited or made a dirty deal?

Be honest. Even if no one else is.

Given this fact. Let's check out some others.

One:
   Everyone running for president of the United States is a liar and a cheat and at least one of them has had an extra-marital affair. Does the name Marla rings any bells?
Two:
   That makes them equal in this area.
Three:
   One candidate has a tremendous amount of experience in politics and understands how our government works. One does not.

Question. If you were hiring someone for a job in your house or business, and they were both equally qualified on question number one, would you choose the more experienced person? Or the one told you what you want to hear? Even though you know the person lies?
The sad part of this question is that you have to hire someone. And, these are your only two choices.

Of course, you could walk down fifth avenue and ask Donald to shoot you and get it over with.

Just saying.

PS.  If they would like to investigate me it would cost a lot less and it would end up with no indictment. So, let's save the government money. I will volunteer because I'm a true patriot.

Thanks for reading.

SUPPLY AND DEMAND. ECONOMICS. I DEMAND THAT YOU SUPPLY ME WITH MORE, WELL IT DOESN'T MATTER. MORE IS ALWAYS BETTER!

 

 

 

 

THEORY:

Economics is a tool to fool the general public into believing that their governments actually know how to run a country.

HYPOTHESIS:

The subject of economics was created to give the illusion that people can be in control of their finances because the government has the interests of its citizens at heart.  

 

    JUST A LITTLE BACKGROUND STORY

I don’t understand economics. I took a course in my undergraduate studies in one of those huge lecture halls where I didn’t know anyone, or anything.  After a while, I was so lost, I gave up. Don’t judge. I was 19 years old. I went to class because if I didn’t, I’d get in trouble. You were only allowed three absences, so my body was there. I don’t know where I left my mind.

Shockingly, I did not do well on the midterm. I remember was that I had to get a 74 on the final in order to pass. I wasn’t totally stupid. I knew this would be a tough class, so, I had taken it as pass/fail. The college allowed you two pass/fails in your four years. I had never failed a class in my life. And if I had gotten a D, it was in that math/logic course. Although I’m pretty sure I somehow managed to eke out a C.  Anyway, to keep my index (grade point average) from suffering, I decided this was where I’d take the pass. It kind of sounds like a game show these days, but trust me, it wasn’t even.

For the first time in my life, I knew that the only way I could possibly pass was to cheat. (I’m still embarrassed that I did this, but I couldn’t have handled failure back then.) The old lecture halls were such that you could see the desk/chair of the person sitting next to you or right below you. I figured they had to know more than I. So that was my plan. Obviously the teacher had enough experience to know there were students like me in the course, so she had two tests prepared. Holy Crap. I had to figure out who had the same test I did and was in close enough in proximity to copy.

Long story short, I had to copy from the person who was sitting one row down and two seats over. Well, at least my vision was better back then, but it wasn’t easy and it was my only shot.

The Kicker! I did get exactly 74, and the person I copied from, got a 72. Apparently, a higher power was rooting for me and I miscopied a wrong answer into a right one.

This has little to do with what I’m going to write about. Those of you who follow me, are prepared for these digressions.

It does prove my statement that I know nothing about economics. Do you believe me now?

 

THE ECONOMIC STATE OF OUR COUNTRY

Obviously, I am not qualified to make any statements about this. However, that has never stopped me from giving an opinion before, and it’s not going to stop me now.

 

DOES ANYONE REALLY UNDERSTAND ECONOMICS?

The short answer is no. I believe, that only a handful of people truly do. They are the ones who run the world. They also have made economic theory so confusing that the rest of us don’t have any idea as to what is really going on. Sorry Allan. Not even our accountants.

However, in the past, some of it was fairly simple. Like the law of supply and demand. Has that changed? I doubt it. At the present time, they just like to ignore it.

So.?

Please explain to me why companies like Starbucks, K-Mart, the Gap, Macy’s, Borders Books, Barnes and Noble, Office Depot, Walgreen’s, 7-Elven and Target, to name a few, kept expanding?  I can’t remember all of them, but they kept building new stores in the same neighborhoods. My friends and I would ask, “Like what is wrong with them? Do they think we can support this many –blankety blank, stores?”

Somewhere in each of those companies,  the economic genius had formulas as to: how many people lived in the area, how much money they made, how far they would drive and whatever else they needed to figure out if another store could be supported.

Obviously, if they’d have asked us, we would have told them “like, what?” and perhaps some of them might still be in business, or have not built stores only to close them down and fire the employees.

HOW DID THAT SHIT HAPPEN?

Beats the hell out of me. Unless failing was their plan. Huh? That doesn’t make any sense at all. Greed? Well, that makes sense, but it still doesn’t account for how the formulas failed and they had to close up so many stores or go out of business. That must have hurt. Yeah, but who?

WHO GETS HURT THE MOST?

The people who are now out of work. What happens to all the people who had jobs and then, poof, they’re gone. And if you check the unemployment data, you’ll know it’s pretty bad. As far as I can tell, the large construction companies were the only ones who made out. But, that would be the people at the top in management, because I know a lot of guys who actually WORK construction, and they can’t get enough employment.

 

I love our government. They’re like, “It’s the Democrats fault that the economy isn’t growing. They just don’t understand economics”. So the Republican’s blame the Democrats for ruining the economy, by giving poor people money and wanting to raise taxes, instead of giving business the laws to do what they want, and let the money trickle down.”

I’m not sure whose pockets the money trickled into, but I’m guessing it wasn’t yours.

NOW WHAT?

 Both parties are saying they are going to fix it. Of course when I say “government” I am referring to the two delightful parties that are BOTH responsible for the mess we find ourselves in. And they even have the gall to want us to believe that they can fix it. I’m guessing that they have as good an understanding of economics as I do.

And that is accounting for their “economic advisors.” The same ones who no doubt told K-Mart to keep expanding.

THIS LEADS ME TO WHAT I SEE AS A FUNDAMENTAL FLAW IN CAPITALISM, BUT PLEASE DON’T TELL ME I’M A COMMUNIST. I’M NOT. I’M A LOGICIAN WITHOUT A PARTY.

Another Digression:

After I had graduated from college, I still wanted to learn. It was probably around 1972 when I took a course in my neighborhood in a continuing ed. program. I can’t remember the name of the class and I’m pretty sure I didn’t finish it, but I did read the book, Wages, Price and Profit by Karl Marx.

What I remember of it, {which isn’t that much}, is his point about profit and how it would be the death of capitalism.

 

He wrote about how companies believed that they must keep at least a certain profit margin to be doing well and growing. This is not true. You can have a small margin, you don’t have to keep growing and you can be flexible in your goals. That seems to make sense.

If you don’t even try to listen to the news{ like I try not to listen, since it only riles me up}, you still manage to hear that there has been no growth in the economic index (whatever that is) and that such and such company did not meet their projections for growth during the last fiscal period.

What Exactly Does that mean?

Let’s put on our thinking caps boys and girls. How much profit do you need to make? Beats me. And where does that profit go? Well, probably to the big salaries the bosses make and maybe if they are traded on the market, to shareholders.  On the surface, if you are the head of the company or a big shareholder, that’s a good deal. If you’re not? Then what.

We all know the answer to that one. Massive layoffs. No jobs. Unhappy people. Angry people. A people divided.  Do you remember when AT & T fired over 40,000 employees because they weren’t doing well, but gave their CEO, I think, a 40 million dollar bonus? Yeah. Its times like these that I think Karl wasn’t quite so crazy.

 

HOW CAN COMPANIES AND GOVERNMENTS KEEP GROWING?

This is where I actually get to my point. Yee Ha!! 

They cannot. If we look back at history, we see that every civilization has had a rise and a fall. And I believe that is part of the nature of the Universe.

Any living thing has a limited period of growth and then a decline. And we know what happens after decline, but I’m not going to say it here.

yay. Where does the guy on top go?

Nothing can keep on growing. It is ridiculous to expect it to. (There’s my favorite word). Again, I will try to use plain logic. I’m trying to think of an example. I’ll need a minute and my husband is asleep so I can’t ask for help.

Let’s try this one. It is ridiculous, but let’s imagine that you can’t actually see it because you’re blind, you know like in total denial. Okay?

You own a boat building business that supplies boats to the town along the lake. Imagine no other towns, no other lakes, and no other people than those already there.  You’re a fairly isolated community.

Your goal is to build as many boats as you can, so you can be very rich. So you build your boats and you sell them to the people in town because they need to go out on the lake to get around. Business is booming and you are making more boats than you thought possible. There is no competing factory. Lucky you.  Now, more than half the people in town are working for you to build the boats because of supply and demand, and now you’re the only industry there and the people who live in town need money to live. Also, they’d still like to buy a boat. The American Dream. The town depends on your for its existence.

Now, let’s imagine this story to its end. Everyone in town, now has a boat. Okay, almost everyone. There is no longer any room for them to go very far on the lake because of the congestion.

Since no one needs any more boats, you keep laying people off because you can’t afford their salaries. What do they do? There are no other businesses for them to work at any more. They would sell the only expensive item they own, but it’s a boat and everyone already has one.

You, the boat builder, may still well have a lot of money from when business was good, but there is very little left in town for you to spend it on. And now, people have the nerve to be asking you for money. Just because you have it.

Maybe one morning everyone gets up and finds that you has abandoned the town. Took your money and ran. Who could blame you? The town is dead.

They boarded up the windows of the closed shops and try and figure out what to do now.

I’ll end here. You get the idea. And actually. I see where I got the idea without even knowing it. Isn’t it great how the unconscious works?

Norwich CT. was a two industry town. One of them was called Electric Boat. The town was right next door to Groton CT, where the nuclear subs were stored and maybe built. Who remembers.

 

Anyway, when peace with Russia came, no one needed more submarines and electric boat folded. And so did the little town of Norwich because more than half the people made their livings there.

My mom and her two sisters lived in Norwich, so I remember a bit about what happened.

 

HAVING REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS, EVEN WHEN THEY HURT.

Let’s face it. Our economies, and I’m speaking for most of the entire Earth at this moment, are unlikely to experience any major growth spurts that are going to help us.

When the politicians tell us they can fix this, well, maybe they can fix it for the already rich. They sure as hell aren’t going to be able to do anything for the struggling middle class, nor the already extremely poor.

What happens when you have something that grows aggressively?  It ultimately destroys itself. If you don’t agree, think about cancer.

In our society, we have the “Haves” and the “Have Nots”. Are the “Haves” willing to give to the “Have Nots”? You know their answers.

We “Have” because we worked hard, and made sacrifices and if you work hard, you too can be a “Have”. It you’re a “Have Not”, you’re to blame. You didn’t try hard enough, work hard enough, struggle enough so it’s your fault. Or maybe it’s because you’re an immigrant and don’t speak English. Sorry. I had to throw that in.

 

Why should the government give you money when it’s your fault that you don’t have any?

Okay. Let’s go back a step and see why they don’t have any. You Fuckers have to keep your profit margins high and keep growing so you keep laying off workers and then there are no customers for your services or products so you lay off more people. 

CONCLUSION:

The people, at least in America are so desperate that they are willing to believe any bullshit you throw at them.

Does anyone have the courage to say that this is a problem that maybe we can’t fix?

I do. But then, I’d never want to be a part of the government. For obvious reasons. Although I am qualified. I cheated on a test.

 

 

 

        Thank You for Reading. I know. This was a LONG one.

 

 

 

WANT RELATIONSHIP ADVICE FROM AN EXPERT? ASK YOURSELF.

no. this is not my car. I couldn't find the damned photos. Where the Hell are they?

 

How I came upon this theory.

You already know that I think too much. You may not know that I do much of it while driving. I was going to say in my car, but, what else would I be driving? Anyway, twice weekly I have to drive 40 minutes south which gives me enough time to think and possibly remember what it was I was thinking about before I get out of the car.

It’s no shock, that being female, I think about my relationship with my husband, and with my friends, and occasionally with myself. Oh, also with my family although I can’t really change those, because except all but one or two are deceased, so I’m not sure that figures in.

There are, and have been throughout the years, that I at least have been alive, countless call in radio shows, TV shows, and books. I wonder how much money is made from people buying books about how to fix, find, or forget, some relationship.  Oh yeah. And psychotherapy, counseling, psychics and horoscopes.

I ought to know something about it. I saw enough patients who were troubled by their relationships, or lack of them, and spent many hours listening and attempting to come up with helpful/healing, solutions. What I know is, that if people took the advice they got from whatever source they chose, there would be huge industry still cranking out more books.

THEORY:

People in relationship pain want relief. They go to many sources to get answers and yet, usually, nothing helps. This is because either they are going to the wrong source, or they really don’t want help. They want people to feel compassion for them and they want to vent and be told it’s the fault of the other person.

 

HYPOTHESIS:

If asking for relationship advice worked, people would take the advice and change. Most people, in enough pain, seek advice. If it’s from a person, they explain why the advice is wrong or say thank you, and continue doing what they’ve been doing. If it’s from a book, they underline things, take notes and put the book down and take no action. Therefore, since all change happens from within, the person they should be asking, is themselves.

Research design:

My findings are based on years of observation, personal interaction with family and friends and years of psychotherapy. The psychotherapy consists of being on both sides of the couch.

     

FINDINGS, OTHERWISE KNOW AS ANECDOTAL EVIDENCE.

Have you ever heard or said these words? Yes, but? I’ll bet you have. My favorite thing about the word “but”, is that it allows you to say all sorts of wonderful things to someone else, and then negate them all with a little, slipped in, three letter word.

YES BUTT.......

Example conversations:

“If you break up with him, you can afford your own apartment, you have a good job, and you then have the opportunity to meet someone who will treat you well”. 

“I’d love a new apartment, but aren’t they really scarce? And my job is great, but what if something happens and I lose it? So if he’s not there as a backup, what will I do?” 

All of these statements are true. What did you think you were going to hear?

“From what you’re telling me, you are so depressed that can’t function. Your unhappiness seems to be coming from living with someone you no longer love, who has controlled you since you met and allows you no privacy and is constantly verbally abusing you. What do YOU want?”

“I hate it. I stay in my room and listen to loud music to drown him out. It’s been my whole life. It’s all that I know. I hate it when he talks to me like that. Sometimes I get so upset that I yell back and say terrible things. Then I feel worse. He can’t help it. He’s sick.”

That was a wonderful deflection. Don’t answer the question. Just continue to complain about what the problems are and keep doing that until the other person, well, either stops talking and just listens, or tries to break through the resistance.

You think I should do ...What?????

What’s clear is that is doesn’t seem like these people are on the same page. Maybe not even in the same room.  Why is that?

WHO DO I WANT TO CHANGE?

I recently read a quote and I hope I can remember it well enough to get the message across.

When a person blames another, he is not educated.

When a person blames himself, his education has begun.

When a person does not blame anyone, his education is done.

All of us believe we are right. I think that’s instinctive.

It may have been a great survival tool for our ancestors, but it’s not working so well in this time in our evolved lives.

Even if I am right? At what cost? I’ve talked before about how the only one we can change is ourselves. This may be a theme, but it’s also a truth as I see it.

This reminds me of a light bulb joke.

How many psychologists does it take to change a light bulb?

None. The lightbulb has to want to change itself.

So, that brings me back to my premise, that you are your own expert and if you want advice on a relationship, you are the only one who has any answers.

How to go about being your own expert?

I’m a proponent of writing things down. Anyway that works for you. A story, a series of tales, a list. That’s not important. What is important is that you write down the details of all your relationships.

Where should you start? Well, I like to go back to the beginning. That works for me.

What was my relationship with my mother, father, and siblings? Those would be the first ones and perhaps the ones that could shed the most light.

Writing a saga is probably not what you need. The salient points will do. Was there conflict? How was it resolved? How was love shown? What were your interactions usually like? How did that relationship make you feel? Were you given too many or two few responsibilities? Were you allowed to voice an opinion?

There are many, many questions you can ask. These are examples.

oops. maybe I forgot this one. anyway. Just ask yourself questions.

Then you can move on to friends and romantic relationships. The questions should be similar.

OKAY. NOW WHAT?

This is the part where you start to look for patterns. I previously wrote about people pleasers in a former post. You would notice a pattern of doing what you were told by everyone so you didn’t cause waves. The reason doesn’t matter. The pattern does.

Did you get yelled at a lot? How did you respond? Do you find yourself in relationships where you are still getting yelled at and responding in the same way?

Look at the patterns that you find.

If you find that there are patterns in the relationships, you will be able to see what it is that YOU are bringing to the table. Even though the people we pick may appear to be so very different from our families, or our other relationships, the patterns of behaviors will be there. Generally, those are the problems we bring to the relationship and the ones we can decide about changing.

 

ONE OF MY OWN PERSONAL REVELATIONS.

About ten years ago my marriage had reached one of those really bad rough patches. We never had yelling matches or name calling, but we did argue and of course, it was quite unpleasant.

My husband changed. He decided that he wasn’t going to argue with me anymore. As he would say, “I know where this is going, and I’m not going down that road”. So, at the start of an argument, he’d just walk away and go into another room, or leave the house.

I was more than upset. I couldn’t believe that he would do that. It initially made me angrier, but then I noticed that what it was really doing was triggering anxiety. At times, it got so bad, I needed a valium.

I finally started to ask myself what was going on. There were two things that emerged.  When he cut me off, he triggered old abandonment anxiety that had plagued me since childhood. I had never learned to self soothe, so it would get so uncomfortable that I would feel trapped in my own skin. Once I was able to could recognize it, I was able to respond as an adult and not a child. He wasn’t abandoning me. He just didn’t want to fight or talk about something and that was all it was. I was able to calm myself after that without medication or having to go to sleep because I could recognize it. If I could recognize it, I could stop it from going any further. That was really big and very helpful.

The other thing I felt, was unloved. That took some looking at, as well. I thought back to my life at home when I was living with my parents.

Arguing was what we often did. It was frequent. It was how we communicated. More so with my dad and sister. My mom was more of the silent treatment type. I realized that in my nuclear family, our connectedness was through negative interaction and that I came to believe that, this was how love was shown. A bit disturbing, but that’s how it was.

I realized that when my husband wouldn’t communicate with arguing it made me feel disconnected and unloved.

After I put those things together, I understood my reactions to him and was able to stop running after to him to try to continue to argue.

I was able to stop feeling abandoned and unloved. And, we were able to communicate without getting into fights and bad places. We still don’t go down those bad roads. We disagree, but know when to just stop and let it be.

CONCLUSIONS:

Advice is usually given for free. And often, we take it at the value we paid. I don’t want advice. I want things to be different. Except, usually, I don’t want to be different, or do anything differently.

Knowing this. That’s the first step. If I’m willing to look at myself, and take responsibility for me, I can come up with answers to questions that I might not be willing to hear from someone else.

Or course, input from someone else is often important. The trick is knowing who to ask. Usually it’s the person we already know will agree with us. Not a good idea when you want to grow.  So, we need to find someone who doesn’t have a preformed notion and who we respect.

P.S.

Some years ago I read a Harville Hendrix book. I think it was called getting the love you need, or something like that. Being that it was really, long ago, I can’t say too much of what it was, although, what I’ve written may be similar in some way.

What I do recall was several questionnaires throughout the book.  Towards the end, you were asked to go back to different sections and take words you had written. In the instance I remember, the words would give you what you thought of marriage.  My words were, dead-end, death, trapped and some similar adjectives. I had never imagined that I had an image like that, but when I saw it, and thought about it, it was right on.

So, what do you think? Are you up to the challenge?

                                    Thanks for reading.